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Danny Baldwin
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 3:09 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I really wouldn't call this a human rights battle, because, gays are known to be in the top percentiles for education, income, etc, for one, and for a certificate proving marriage (for me, a family is out of the question, for the child could endure some pretty rough things socially in that situation), so there really, is no point. Even if I way gay, I probably wouldn't be for gay marriage, even though I can't really ensure that.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 5:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can't agree that a child "could endure some pretty rough things socially," or at least I can't agree that it would be rougher because his parents are homosexual. A child has it extremely rough having only a single mom or a single dad, or if his parents are divorced; I don't think his situation would be any worse if he had two moms or two dads, especially if the two parents were in love. Certainly he or she could be made fun of, but that's practically inevitable for any child in any family; if he is dearly loved by his parents, then I think that outweighs the negatives, especially since loving parenthood is nearly as difficult to find these days as a ridicule-free childhood.

And, in any case, who says the gay marriage has to result in offspring? Marriage should be about love, not raising children. If the gay partners want to prove their love, want to have their union writ legally, then denying them that right to marriage is a human rights violation.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 8:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Danny Baldwin wrote:
(for me, a family is out of the question, for the child could endure some pretty rough things socially in that situation)


A child from a interracial couple can endure some pretty rough treatment socially, too, but I suspect few people in this day and age would use that as a argument against interracial marriage. Also, I'm interested in hearing about the economic issues involved in gay marriage. Like Eric, I wouldn't put a price tag on equality either, but if the argument is strong enough I'd surely take it into consideration.

As a sidebar, I'm reading an article in Discover about the neuroscience of morality and ethics. Fascinating stuff.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 8:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

matt header wrote:
My favorite argument in favor of gay marriage, written by columnist Dan Savage


My favorite quote from his column:

"One day I would like to live in a country where my decade-long relationship is treated with the same respect--and afforded the same rights, protections, and responsibilities--as Britney Spears' 55-hour marriage."

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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 8:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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And, in any case, who says the gay marriage has to result in offspring? Marriage should be about love, not raising children.


But having children is the greatest showing of love a couple can ever do.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 9:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, the only problem I have with that statement is--why do the gays need marriage to solidify their love if there will be money loss at the expense of this?
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 10:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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matt header wrote:
And, in any case, who says the gay marriage has to result in offspring? Marriage should be about love, not raising children.


But having children is the greatest showing of love a couple can ever do.


I completely disagree. My wife and I don't have children, and at this point we've decided we don't want any. Yet I don't think we "show" any less love than a couple with children.

Danny, how will gay marriage result in money loss?
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 10:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, there are two scenarios I can think of where we would lose money tax-wise, first and foremost.

1) A gay couple decides to have a child, resulting in one quitting work. Here, we now have a single-income to tax, as opposed to duel.

2) A less likely situation is presuming the couple hasn't already moved in together, and does because of there marriage. Duel homeowners' tax to single. You may say that this can happen at any time in their relationship, and I wouldn't argue, but marriage definitely promotes it.

Both of these are much bigger than the marriage tax that they'd pay. Even assuming 1% of gays fell into this situation, generously speaking, we'd be down a billion in only a few years. If you want specific equations, I'll show you them.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 10:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

the night watchman wrote:
I completely disagree. My wife and I don't have children, and at this point we've decided we don't want any. Yet I don't think we "show" any less love than a couple with children.



I know it's completely possible for a couple to utterly love each other without having any children -- that's fine, regardless of what you believe. But it is true that having children of your own, engaging in sexual intercourse with someone you love, in order to procreate, is a sample of total commitment and love. My parents, who have five children, may be as happy as you and your wife -- and viceversa --, but all I'm saying is that having children only serves to soldify your love for one another, and it usually makes it stronger.

Just my opinion, of course. Don't forget that I'm a Roman Catholic with strong Christian beliefs, I go to church every Sunday and blah, blah, blah.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 11:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Danny Baldwin wrote:
Well, there are two scenarios I can think of where we would lose money tax-wise, first and foremost.

1) A gay couple decides to have a child, resulting in one quitting work. Here, we now have a single-income to tax, as opposed to duel.


This might be true if unemployment was zero. Let's assume that one partner does indeed decide to quit. His job will still exist, and another individual will fill that position. The tax revenue will merely shift from one individual to another. Even if the scenario you've described would occur, I still don't see why that's reason to deny human rights to one group. Seems to me this argument basically boils down to: let's continue to oppress one group, so the rest of us can continue to enjoy lower taxes. In other words, we're essentially demanding one group to shoulder a portion of our taxes for us. (Besides, some heterosexual parents also decide to become single-income homes--perhaps we should ban opposite-sex marriage in order to boost the economy?)

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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 11:09 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The Third M?n wrote:
the night watchman wrote:
I completely disagree. My wife and I don't have children, and at this point we've decided we don't want any. Yet I don't think we "show" any less love than a couple with children.



I know it's completely possible for a couple to utterly love each other without having any children -- that's fine, regardless of what you believe. But it is true that having children of your own, engaging in sexual intercourse with someone you love, in order to procreate, is a sample of total commitment and love. My parents, who have five children, may be as happy as you and your wife -- and viceversa --, but all I'm saying is that having children only serves to soldify your love for one another, and it usually makes it stronger.

Just my opinion, of course. Don't forget that I'm a Roman Catholic with strong Christian beliefs, I go to church every Sunday and blah, blah, blah.


This opinion may be founded upon Catholicism, but I don't think it's founded upon Christianity in general. Speaking as a Christian, I agree with Night Watchman here--in both theological and secular contexts, there are multiple reasons for marriage to exist, and there are multiple ways to express love and total commitment. The willingness or ability to raise children is not the standard by which to judge any relationship. Are we to assume that the more children a couple has, the stronger--and superior--is their love? I think that standard fails to acknowledge the complexity of humanity, human relationships, and family dynamics.

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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 11:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

beltmann wrote:


This might be true if unemployment was zero.


That's almost theory, too. A person in the gay's job is a) either shifting from there position, in which a new worker would take there job, or b) a new worker themself.

So, with new workers comes more gay workers, meaning more gay marriages. There is always a gap, if you follow the idea.
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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 11:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Danny Baldwin wrote:
Well, the only problem I have with that statement is--why do the gays need marriage to solidify their love if there will be money loss at the expense of this?


Then by extension we ought to bristle at the thought of heterosexual marriage--why do straight couples need marriage tax breaks when it results in money loss on a national level? Consider the Bizarro Universe argument: I bet if we allowed gay marriage and banned straight marriage, our tax revenue would skyrocket!

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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 11:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Danny Baldwin wrote:
beltmann wrote:


This might be true if unemployment was zero.


That's almost theory, too. A person in the gay's job is a) either shifting from there position, in which a new worker would take there job, or b) a new worker themself. So, with new workers comes more gay workers, meaning more gay marriages. There is always a gap, if you follow the idea.


Honestly, I don't follow. Are you suggesting that all new workers come from the gay ranks? Are there no unemployed heterosexuals? And why will more gay workers result in more gay marriage? Do homosexuals only find romance in the workplace?

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PostPosted: 03.23.2004 11:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

i am not against it but they should call it something else instead of marriage. marriage is with a man and an womam. if there is going to be an legal certificate uniting the same sex bonding them together legaly in our secular soceity then the word should different from 'marriage'.

(something not in the dictionary; at the moment}
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